A Guide to the Perfect Messy Pony

Your Guide to the Messy Pony I wit & whimsy

A large part of why I choose to keep my hair long is because I love to be able to wear a ponytail. I’ve loved the style for as long as I can remember but I have to admit that the gorgeous silky, shiny pony isn’t quite my style. I prefer a messy, texturized look that appears as though you just threw your beach-y waves up in an effortless manner. The trick however? It’s not so effortless haha! That being said it’s also not that hard.

So today I’m breaking down the steps I take in order to achieve my own messy ponytail (as seen above!) Here goes:

Prep your hair.

You want your hair to have the right product in it in order to achieve the proper texture for a messy pony. Before you dry your hair, cocktail in your hand a smoothing cream and a de-frizz serum. Work throughout your hair. Then add in this to your ends to help keep them smooth while in the ponytail.

Blow dry.

Cut down on blow dry time by using the Eco Tools Ultimate Air Dryer Hair BrushThis unique brush is specially designed to dry hair 40% faster for less heat damage and quicker prep time. Great for detangling right out of the shower with anti-tangle bristles that nurture the hair and scalp while brushing and styling for a smooth, shiny blowout. I just started using this dryer and really love it so far.

Curl your hair.

Since the end goal is for the look to be rather piece-y and messy, I recommend using a wand to curl your hair. A 1-in wand one works best for me and remember as you work around your head that perfection is not the goal. Section your hair in half and then into 2-3 inch pieces and wrap away from  your face moving around the crown until all pieces have been curled.


If you’ve read this blog for a while you know that I have a massive love affair with this spray. Apply it all over, particularly to your roots to add volume up top which is key for a messy ponytail. Brush through from mid-way down your hair to the ends ever so softly.

Pony up!

Gather your hair in an elastic and aim to secure it squarely at the center mark of the back of your head. (I personally leave my part exposed as I like this better for my face shape – hello, big forehead!) Once secured, slowly squeeze on your ponytail to adjust the height on the back of your head. As you tighten, the volume will begin to build. If you feel like it’s not as secure as you’d like, add another elastic for extra support.


As a last step, use the thin end of a teasing comb to pull out pieces on the sides of your pony for a bit more volume so that the look from the front isn’t severe but rather soft.


…et voila! A messy pony that’ll last you all day.

Special thanks to Eco Tools for partnering on this post.

[Bekka Palmer Photography]

How to Get More Volume in Your Hair

How to get more volume in your hair

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Like every girl, I’ve had a seemingly endless battle with making my hair work for me rather than against me. I feel like in the past year I finally, finally got more of a handle on it and as my body chemistry has changed due to thyroid disease, I’ve had to make some edits to products and my routine but today I thought I’d share how I achieve volume in my hair as I feel like this is something every girl is looking to achieve. (Seriously, how DO we get that just-had-a-blowout look!?)

1. Wash your hair at night.

I know this flattens some people’s hair but for me it helps in a MAJOR way to tame my hair and make it easier to work with from a styling standpoint. I shower at night using a different mix of shampoos + conditioners each time (and try to only wash my 3-4 times a week). My favorite combos include this Oribe set, this Amika shampoo used with this Garnier conditioner and this Head + Shoulders. (Yes, my shower is absolutely full of too many products.)

2. Use the right cocktail of styling products.

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Travel size products are perfect for figuring out what works best for your hair. After towel drying my hair, I put in Living Proof PHD Styling Cream, Living Proof Frizz Serum and KMS California Quick Dry Spray to help speed up drying time. Also, at Grace’s recommendation, I just started using this Oribe mousse for extra volume, too if your hair falls into the fine category. Then blow dry your hair with a round brush but don’t worry about straightening it or styling it. Just blow dry + sleep on it.

3. Dry Shampoo is your BFF.

I’ve sung its praises many a time, but the DryBar Detox Dry Shampoo is my saving grace. I spray this on my roots as I finish my makeup and then brush it through before starting to style my hair.

4. Curl your hair in sections.

I split my hair in half and first curl the right half of my hair and then the left. Spray it with your favorite hair spray and then I curl the pieces around the crown of my head. This part is key to getting volume. Use your fingers to tousle the curls after finishing curling your face framing pieces and the other top sections of your hair. I use this Chi Automatic Rotating Curler. It is a-w-e-s-o-m-e.

5. Set your hair and texturize it.

After I use hairspray, as mentioned above, I use a setting + shine spray. Spray it first standing up and then flip your hair over and spray it with your head turned over. Lift your hair up and use your fingers to finish styling. As a last – but super important step – use a texturizing spray. I spray mine at my roots and work it into my hair with my hands and on days when needed, a volumizing comb. It gives my hair the added boost it needs and ensures volume lasts throughout the day. You can also carry a travel size to use before your evening plans as a refresher.


A few misc. items that I thought worth mentioning, too: I take these vitamins a few times a week and also regularly work hair masks into my routine. I’ll share a few of my favorites in the coming week. Additionally, I always, always comb my conditioner through with a comb I keep in the shower and then clip it back while I was my face so the conditioner has time to set prior to rinsing.

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Note: I link to a lot of Oribe products here and this post is in no way sponsored by them but I truly swear by their products and believe they have helped me to have my best hair. The products are expensive but have proven 100% worthwhile for me, personally. 

[Bekka Palmer Photography]

p.s a VERY happy 30th birthday to my BFF Andrea!! Love you so much!

7 ways to add color to your beauty routine


I always find that, during the winter months, I wear less and less color when it comes to my wardrobe. I trend towards chunky black knits, darker denim and dark neutral accessories. But for my beauty routine? I think there’s no better time to add color! Today I’m sharing 7 ways to add pops of color to your look this season.

1. Nail it. Think out of the box in terms of the usual seasonal nail colors like red or burgundy. I love the look of winter white nails and adding a subtle hint of glitter is a fun way to mix things up. The new Nails INC Victoria Beckham collection has the perfect hue for this – Bamboo White.

IMG_93612. Go matte. Matte lip color is a unique way to emphasize your lips aside from the usual glosses. I love NARS’ Matte lip pencils and the Maybelline Matte lipsticks.

3. Line up the Always use brown or black liner on your eyes? Try switching things up with blue or green. The Makeup Forever branded colored liners have staying power.


4. Mix up your mascara. Similar to trying out new liner colors, go for a new mascara color that isn’t brown or black. These hues are striking and not crazy looking. Note to self, don’t do colored liner + colored mascara – choose one or the other.

5. Seek a subtle shimmer. Winter is a great time to add some shimmer to your skin, as you’re missing your summer glow. I like Benefit Cosmetics’ Girl Meets Pearl – pat it on your cheekbones and just under your brow line at the top of your eyelids.

6. Try palettes. If you’re anything like me, you tend to use the same neutral eyeshadow colors everyday. Palettes are a great way to change this up. They are rather foolproof and often come with guides on how to maximize the colors included. This one is my favorite.


7. Go low. When I most recently got my hair done, I added in lowlights in addition to highlights. It helped tone down my summer blonde while adding dimension and making my hair color more seasonally appropriate. Ask your stylist to add subtle lowlights next time you see them!


Looking for a cost effective way to change up your color routine? Get your girlfriends together to swap things like nail polish, or each bring a new lip color for everyone to try. Get some jams going, pour some Seven Daughters Wine and it becomes a perfect little get together!

This post is brought to you as a part of my collaboration with Seven Daughters wine as part of their Savvy Seven. All opinions are my own.